Sunday, August 9, 2026

Ironing or Not

Someone mentioned they had a pile of ironing to get through and felt quite daunted by it, which reminded me of that day, years ago when a friend asked me for coffee.
She had a large family like me .
I told her I was sorry but I had a huge mountain of ironing to get through. Maybe another day.
When she told me she didn’t ever have a “pile” of ironing I was a bit shocked to say the least and asked her how come. She and all her family always looked well presented so I couldn’t quite understand.
What she told me next revolutionised my life.
“I wash the clothes, dry the clothes, fold the clothes and hang them up or put them in drawers. And if anything needs ironing I might do it before I put it on” 
Wow, I thought, that actually might work
And thirty years later it’s still working.
Thank you Sonia.

The following poem is sort of a reminder of before.

The Ironing


And the whole pile is slipping,
it'll end up on the floor
it'll get all dirty 
and I'll have to do more,
washing.
My husbands shirts
ten or twelve
my four son's school uniform
trousers - cotton
the girls skirts - pleated.
It's the first thing I see
when I enter the room,
this mighty monster
prophet of doom
looking at me,
goading me
daring me
I'm not going anywhere
until you make
time to get round to me
I'll keep you awake
But today I've decided
I'll not do it anymore
for all I care,
It can fall on the floor
Ah no, that's no good
Instead,
let's fold it neatly
 put it away
get rid of the bully 
yes, that's the way.
Right, clear the table
and away we go,
a pile for each person
they'll never know
And before I know it 
the jobs all done.
Now, time for a cuppa
and a currant bun


Thursday, August 6, 2026

You Mix it Up

 6 August 2026


You Mix It Up

Life is  delightful, happy, 

the days full of love and future dreams,

but thats when you decide to,

Mix it up.


Without any warning you interfere,

unsettle the heart, displace the joy

stir up the quiet sea within, causing waves

 that batter and hurt.


Tumble about, slip further under,

 unable to breathe, where is the surface?

Or where is the land to rescue ?

Where to  rest?


Today a little respite, a stillness, 

a long intake of breath, 

and, for now,

some peace. 

 


Wednesday, August 5, 2026

Gillyngvase Beach

3rd August 2020

17th July 2020

Gyllyngvase Beach 

Runners pound by our window. It's 5.30 am. We breathe a sigh of relief, having  got through the night without being moved on.

Peter is eager to hide the evidence of our wild camp, and immediately puts the bed up, and takes down the curtain which hides the sleeping area from view. 





We set our chairs out under a small tree, the morning sunny and warm, the Bay beautiful,  the sea still and magical, giving a sense of the vastness of eternity.
Breakfast of porridge for Peter, granola for me followed by our half hour of prayer/meditation, is next. It's a special time for us, which we rarely omit as we tune in with the day, each other, ourselves and God. 
 Now we are full of joy and courage for whatever comes our way during the day.



The sea is out, exposing rocks, where we spot some small fish and talk to a mum collecting crabs with her young son and am reminded  of the many times we spent happy days on beaches with the children, regardless of the weather, swimming or scouring rock pools or searching for fossils. One thing for sure, you could never just be still.I miss those days sometimes. `We accompany the grandchildren now, but I'm not as able or active as I once was. 

Gyllyngvase beach is a short walk up the coast and the sun, even this early ( must be only about 9.30 am) is hot on us, reminding me, with the long stretch of sand too, of previous holidays around the Mediterranean.

The sound of children playing, seagulls squawking, young people laughing, you wouldn't think we're living in a pandemic.

Around midday we decide to find our campsite so we can set ourselves up for the next four nights. I look forward to not worrying about finding a convenient wild camping spot. 

We put the postcode in the sat nav and follow the instructions, coming off the main road, down country lanes, and finally into a small lane (a boreen) with grass down the middle and only the width of a car.
"This can't be right," I say as we continue winding round this lane, which is not a through road and only goes to the farm. 
There are cows in the field opposite the campsite, which is obviously another field for them when it's not holiday season. We see the farmhouse tucked away behind some trees before we see the tents and campers. Ah, that's where we go.
We pull in and notice a sign that tells us to ring this number, which we did. 
"Wait there , I'll be right with you," the lady says. 
We look around and it's then I notice the view. Wow! We are on a hill and I think, it's confirmed later, that what we are looking down at is Falmouth Bay. With the blue water,  the clear blue skies, birds singing and cows mooing in the background, I feel well blessed. 
The farmer  arrives in her  jeep like vehicle, wearing boots, her face rosy and weathered, her dark hair tied back. She takes our envelope with the money in and tells us we can park anywhere at all, except where there is electric hook up, as we've not paid for that. I am so thankful we have our solar panel, which provides all the electric we need, for the fridge, the lights, our phones. It's invaluable when we're wild camping especially. We talk about how everything has to be different at the moment keeping our distance from people and watching everything we do. She is careful to keep at least 2 metres away from us at all times and with the number of people she has to see I don't blame her.

She points out where the toilets are , then leaves us to it.
There is cow smell all around us. This is truly a working farm, the campsite just an extra bit of income. I love it though.
We take a good look round to see where we can put the camper and the awning to get the benefit of the wonderful  view. 



"Ah, that's it, put the door going that way round," I say as we get to grips with the canvas, trying to work out which way round we've got the awning.
"Perfect," I  stare down at the sea, imagining having coffee, reading, eating breakfast while enjoying such a glorious picture.

Unfortunately it was short lived as later that day we get six cars with their tents park in front of us. So disappointing. But hey, that's life. Oh well.

After a quick lunch, finishing off the bread and the feta cheese, we amble back down the lane. a mile or so,  to find a map the farmer told us about. I'm keen to walk from the campsite into Falmouth. After all it's only a couple of miles, well, three at most.  Of course, it never happens. 
We find the map but can't make head nor tail of it. A lady with a large lawnmower turns up and helps us work it out, saying, "have a good holiday" as we go on our way.

We carry on to the village, Budock water, which is about a mile along the windy road.  

There's a pub with customers sitting outside, the familiar sound of "normal" chatting and laughter, echoing through the street. Lovely to see. If there's somewhere to sit we'll stay,have a drink, but no, they are full. Nobody allowed inside yet.
We pass the village shop, two older ladies queue outside next to a sign that says "Only one person allowed in at a time. Sorry for the inconvenience." Where do the villagers do their catching up these days , I wonder.
A little way on we see a woman up a ladder on the outside of a building that looks to me like a church, but turns out to be a restaurant and the lady is putting  cutlery around a clock face. You'd have to see it.
It is a church building and still has many of the features - windows, choir loft etc, which the owner has converted beautifully. Peter wants to come here for dinner before we leave. We don't, not because I won't spend the money, which could easily be the case, but simply because I couldn't enjoy it with cold sores on my lips. So painful when I eat.
We chat with the owner who tells us how to get to Maenporth Beach by the backpaths. It gets my hopes up, but , as you know already we don't do it. 

Dinner for us this evening is a bean chilli using up any vegetables that are getting a bit tired. Delicious. 
When we've cleared up we sit with our glasses( plastic, of course)  of wine and watch he sun go down over the Bay. Red, orange, even purple, the colour of the sky this evening. 

We read in bed for a while , using our head torches.




 

Monday, July 6, 2026

You



7th July 2026

You

In your seventieth year you decided to learn,
the guitar.
Not with the idea of being the next
superstar.
No.
Rather, for pure enjoyment and your urge always 
to grow.
you undertook so many things just because you wanted
to know.
Getting involved in so many projects, thinking always of the 
next task.
Generous with family and friends alike, they only had 
to ask.
So much was fitted into your every 
day
Yet you were never too busy to find time to
pray.
Six hundred and sixty-four days have passed,

And ill love you always, right up to my last.







 

Wednesday, March 25, 2026

Your Birthday

 24th March


558

Another Day.

Without you.

Today is your birthday.

 You would have been seventy seven.

You promised we'd get old together, potter around,

help each other, love each other.

But, you left...

You went too early. 

I was not ready. Not ready.

I'm still,

Not ready.

No...

Yes, it might be, by some measure of time, quite long, 

this eighteen months and twelve days.

And, yes, it is...

However, I want you to know, that,

It's also like you've just left.

I still want to wake from sleep, and

feel you there, beside me .

I still want you to agree, or, not agree,

with all my musings,

to discuss, to make me see everything from,

a different, your, point of view.

I still want us to remember together,

all the many blessings that made up,

Our Life...

I loved that...

Sometimes, do you remember, we would be 

crying with joy as we pondered on

 God's goodness to us.

No, it's not easy, living without you 

beside me.

All those  "little" things didn't add up to,

very much in our day to day life,

But, it's those very ordinary things,

even the smallest irritations ,

that I miss the most, and,

would love to have back.

Am i being morbid? Maybe.

Should I just get on living without you?

Yes, surely.

And, I am, I am. I've got lots going on.

Yet, you aren't there, to share... 

Sometimes, that feels so heavy.

So very heavy...

Will I feel the same when your next

birthday comes around,

Another year from now? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saturday, March 21, 2026

Soda Bread 2

                                Soda Bread 

An early summer light casts long, rectangular patterns

Into the small kitchen.

6  a. m.  Angelus Bells ring out from the cathedral.

Softly, she mutters the prayer, to herself, as,

she places two sods of turf onto burning briquettes,

in the range.

My grandmother remembers, fondly, how grandad and 

John Jo cut the turf, brought it home in the spring,

Turf, that will warm them through bitter winter months.

She sighs, sits the mixing bowl on the wooden,

farmhouse table, adds flour, buttermilk, soda, salt.

No weighing, no hesitating - instinctive, rythmic

Just as my grandmother draws those she loves,

close to her heart,

 with tender touch, she forms the soft, supple dough.

She throws it down, onto the floury table,

gently, she kneads - hands worn, knuckles gnarled.

I imagine her life - many hours, many days, many years,

fair weather, or foul.

 Work, from dawn to dusk . on the family farm.

Today, the cosy cottage is more manageable.


 

My grandmother takes a knife, and cuts, ceremoniously,

into the round dough. 

If you're near, you'll hear , as she whispers,

"The cross of blessing"

Later, as the sun goes down, the soda bread will be cool,

she will slice it, spread it with butter, a lot of butter,

pile it high on plates.

Family and friends will gather, all united together in this,

timeless tradition:

Soda bread, strong tea, shared stories, stories stored

 in the  very walls of the cottage,

 talk, of what has been, what is, what will be.

There will be laughter , there will be crying,

there will be remembering.

My grandmother , with a tear, in her eye,

will look around, and smile.

All hearts will be full .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tuesday, March 17, 2026

             16 th March 2026

                               16 th March 2026

                   A June Morning in The Cottage                                            Soda  Bread                 

An early summer light throws long , rectangular patterns                   into the small kitchen.

6 am - Angelus bells ring out from the cathedral .

Softly , she  mutters the prayer, to herself, as she places                        two sods of turf onto the glowing briquettes in the range.

My grandmother remembers, with a smile how grandad                     and John Jo, cut the turf , brought it home from the bog                          in the spring, turf, that will last the family through                           bitter winter months.                      

 She sighs, sits the mixing bowl on the wooden farmhouse               table, adds flour, salt, buttermilk, soda,                                                   no weighing , no hesitating - rhythmic -  instinctive.                                

Just as my grandmother  draws those she loves                                        close to  her heart, with tender touch she forms the                             soft, supple  dough.                                                                                     She throws it down onto the floury  table,                                          Gently, she kneads, -  hands, worn, knuckles, gnarled.                               I imagine her life - many hours, many days , many years,                         fair weather or fowl - work,  from dawn to dusk                                      on the family farm.                                                                                Today, the cosy cottage is more manageable.                                                My grandmother takes a knife, and,  cuts ceremoniously,                      into the round dough.                                                                                      If you're  near you'll hear her whisper,  "the  cross of blessing."                                                                                                                                          Later, as the sun goes down, the soda bread will be cool,                      she will slice it, spread it with butter, lots of butter,                              pile it high on plates,   family and friends will gather -                        all,  united together in this timeless tradition -  Soda bread,                   pots  of strong tea, shared stories- stories stored                                        in the very walls of the cottage,  talk of what has been, what is,                what will be There will be laughter,there will be crying,                    there will be remembering.

My grandmother will smile, with a tear in her eye.

               All hearts will be full. 

 

 

                                   


 


 

 

  

 

                                   


 



 

 

 

Monday, March 16, 2026

Soda Bread

            16 th March 2026

                   A June Morning in The Cottage                                            Soda  Bread                 

An early summer light throws long , rectangular patterns                   into the small kitchen.

6 am - Angelus bells ring out from the cathedral .

Softly , she  mutters the prayer, to herself, as she places                        two sods of turf onto the glowing briquettes in the range.

My grandmother remembers, with a smile how grandad                     and John Jo, cut the turf , brought it home from the bog                          in the spring, turf, that will last the family through                           bitter winter months.                      

 She sighs, sits the mixing bowl on the wooden farmhouse               table, adds flour, salt, buttermilk, soda,                                                   no weighing , no hesitating - rhythmic -  instinctive.                                

Just as my grandmother  draws those she loves                                        close to  her heart, with tender touch she forms the                             soft, supple  dough.                                                                                     She throws it down onto the floury  table,                                          Gently, she kneads, -  hands, worn, knuckles, gnarled.                               I imagine her life - many hours, many days , many years,                         fair weather or fowl - work,  from dawn to dusk                                      on the family farm.                                                                                Today, the cosy cottage is more manageable.                                                My grandmother takes a knife, and,  cuts ceremoniously,                      into the round dough.                                                                                      If you're  near you'll hear her whisper,  "the  cross of blessing."                                                                                                                                          Later, as the sun goes down, the soda bread will be cool,                      she will slice it, spread it with butter, lots of butter,                              pile it high on plates,   family and friends will gather -                        all,  united together in this timeless tradition -  Soda bread,                   pots  of strong tea, shared stories- stories stored                                        in the very walls of the cottage,  talk of what has been, what is,                what will be There will be laughter,there will be crying,                    there will be remembering.

My grandmother will smile, with a tear in her eye.

               All hearts will be full.